Imagine someone asks you something, and you just stare, raise an eyebrow, and say "?"... 🤦♀️
Thomas Middleditch thought he was being efficient: one character, job done. But that tiny "?" forces the other person to explain themselves again, slowing the whole exchange down.
Most people who do this don't mean to be rude. It's a reflex: "I didn't understand, so I'll just reply with a question mark."
But in text conversations, "?" doesn't give context. It adds friction, confusion, and sometimes even passive-aggressive vibes.
The same goes for:
Just say what's unclear!
Being clear takes maybe two more seconds, but it makes the whole conversation smoother.
Instead of "?", try one of these:
Clarity is kindness, and async-friendly. If someone comes back later, they'll understand exactly what you needed.
When done right, everyone saves time. 🎉